Dark Psychology – Express Urdu

The study of human behavior on a scientific basis is called psychology.

In various situations, a person consciously or unconsciously expresses good or bad attitudes. Some human beings are dominated by bad tendencies: lies, deceit, deception, selfishness and manipulation etc. The scientific study of the above negative attitudes is called ‘dark psychology’, which investigates the causes and motives behind these attitudes.

The knowledge of ‘dark psychology’ explains why and how selfish and mean people use others for their own ends, and what characteristics are found in such individuals. This knowledge can help us to recognize these negative people and we can avoid making any mistakes by being careful.

A positive use of this knowledge is that law enforcement agencies extract information from criminals with the help of ‘dark psychology’, psychologists often resort to it to overcome people’s fears, phobias, etc. Commercial companies try to influence the psychology of consumers to sell more of their products. Therefore, if people are aware of this knowledge, they can better analyze a possible situation and give a good response.

In 2002, psychologists Delroy Paulhus and Kevin Williams introduced a term called ‘The Dark Triad’, which describes the three deficits in people with dark psychology. Tagged with: narcissism, Macaulayism and psychopathy. Narcissism here refers to thinking oneself too important, expecting too much praise from others, while not understanding the difficulties and feelings of others and adopting an attitude of indifference towards them. ‘Macaulianism’ refers to cheating and using others to achieve one’s own ends.

‘Psychopathy’ is a mental disorder in which people lack empathy for others and a sense of remorse for wrongdoing. They have antisocial behavior, do not care about the rights of others and react quickly to a situation without thinking about the consequences.

Practitioners of ‘dark psychology’ use it for personal and professional gain or to prove their superiority. It is also commonly used in romantic relationships. Apart from this, these psychological tactics are also used in business, wars and politics. In ‘dark psychology’ several techniques are used to achieve the objectives, some of which are:

(1) Gaining confidence from an abundance of love

In English, a term ‘Love Bombing’ is used. It is actually a psychological tactic in which a person expresses love very intensely for their own self-interest.

Although its use is common in romantic relationships, it is also used in casual friendships, family relationships, and office environments.

Such a person initially uses flattery, expensive gifts, etc. to gain attention and build rapport, and spends time cultivating that rapport. When he gains a level of trust and intimacy, he begins to use tactics such as criticism and emotional control to establish his superiority.

(2) Perjury

Telling a lie is a great sin, Allah has cursed liars in the Holy Quran. Extreme lying is when lying becomes second nature to a person, and he uses it boldly and deliberately to psychologically exploit or humiliate another person. In psychology, an English term “gaslighting” is used for this condition.

In this tactic, the deceitful and deceitful person acts so falsely for a long time that the victim begins to doubt his own truth and his self-belief begins to waver, until further on the victim becomes completely unfaithful. Being at the mercy of the person who exploits them.

Examples of this can be seen at both individual and collective levels. To avoid this tactic, it is important to know yourself, be confident and emotionally strong. Also, stay away from people or groups that cause false and sophisticated torture.

(3) Silent aggression

A person practicing dark psychology may appear to behave well in this psychological tactic, but his true feelings are different.

Such a person expresses his negative emotions in an indirect way. In the language of psychology, this behavior is called “passive-aggressive behavior”.

This form of psychological abuse is difficult to recognize, as it may appear that the other’s behavior is normal. Such a person appears as if he has no particular interest in your personality or judgment, but is quietly and subtly observing your reaction.

Sometimes he uses different tactics to get you to react. So, if you ever suspect that someone is trying to psychologically exploit you, you should take this feeling seriously and take protective measures. Set relationship boundaries, get help from close and trusted people. Don’t allow anyone to try to control you psychologically.

(4) Emotional blackmail

The term emotional or emotional blackmail is a common term. In this, close relatives, friends, emotionally weaken you and force you to take their decision or adopt their position in a matter for their happiness. Otherwise, they will stop showing you love or kindness.

Emotional blackmail uses fear or remorse tactics. Non-compliance can lead to relationship breakdown and emotional discomfort. If an attitude of love or kindness is withheld for too long, the emotional damage it causes takes a toll on the personality.

Now the question comes to mind that how is it possible to avoid the above negative attitudes? Awareness, education, setting boundaries in relationships can help you avoid the effects of these negative behaviors. Or some emotional damage may require professional help.

Awareness and education means that you must know what negative traits dark psychopaths have and what psychological tactics they use to achieve their goals. ‘Setting boundaries’ means setting clear and healthy boundaries in personal or professional relationships. By bluntly refusing unreasonable demands, you can send a clear message that you are not being controlled.

At some stage in life, you realize that you have become a victim of dark psychology, then consult a psychologist, get yourself out of this emotional damage under his professional guidance.